I am Dr. Richard Riemer, Clinical Psychologist and I can help:
I have practiced my calling more than 30 years, specializing in MEN IN TRANSITION & CRISIS and COUPLES IN DISTRESS. Because my work remains energizing and rewarding, I do not aspire to retire.
MEN IN TRANSITION & CRISIS:
John Lennon said, "Life is what happens when you're making other plans." By mid-life especially, life has "happened" to us all, sometimes with disruptive and even devastating effects. Having navigated through -- often with support and guidance -- my own life transitions and crises and emerged feeling more grounded and clear, I know well the emotional terrain and its developmental challenges.
"In crisis there is danger and opportunity", states the I Ching, a classic Chinese book of wisdom. Too often in a life crisis, we know the dangers, but aren't aware of or need help in realizing the intrinsic opportunities. Guiding and supporting other men to find meaning and new (or renewed) purpose as they face life's inevitable transitions and crises is the most rewarding work I do.
COUPLES IN DISTRESS:
Relationships are difficult. We find ourselves repeating old and dysfunctional patterns: needing to be right rather than staying relational, living at the effect of the other vs. responding for ourselves with our own truth, or conversely, making our own feelings and needs so important that we neither stay attuned to our partner nor to our shared experience as a "we".
In addition to such interpersonal issues, we face work/financial pressures, parenting challenges, and lack of community. As we look to our significant other to meet all our needs, we end up overloading our primary relationship. No wonder couples get distressed.
I approach couples in distress with curiosity and compassion. I then seek to foster those same relational attitudes in the partners themselves, in spite of their often considerable hurt and distrust. Our goals are collaborative and reparative. We clarify what is and then proceed from there, not from what used to be, nor what partners wish might be. We move forward with clarity from a solid emotional foundation. That allows us to work through unresolved pain and conflict while re-establishing and deepening connection and intimacy.